Speed dating in New Zealand is a fantastic way to meet new people. Fun, yet effective, it’s ideal if you are looking to try something new, or if you find that you are too busy for traditional dating.

What is It?

Speed dating refers to a specific type of dating, where you meet many potential dates, over a short period of time. At one of these events, you have between three to ten minutes to chat with one person, then when the time runs out, you go on to the next person.

Benefits of Speed Dating in New Zealand

While it may not seem like the traditional way of meeting your potential partner, speed dating has many advantages. One of the most beneficial aspects is that everyone at the event is there to meet someone.

If you are at a bar, a nightclub, a coffee shop, or any other traditional couples meeting place, you don’t know who’s there to meet someone, and who’s not. Determining your compatibility with someone is also much simpler.

On a traditional date, if you have nothing in common with your date, or if there’s no chemistry, then you have to sit through a whole evening of awkward silences. On a speed date, however, you only have to talk with each person for a few minutes, and then you move on to the next person.

Tips for Success

If you want your experience to be a success, then you need to do a few simple things.

– Make an Effort with your Appearance

It’s is all about first impressions, so presentation is key. Showing up to an event wearing a scruffy outfit won’t serve you well. Before you go to the event, make sure that you’ve showered, shaved, and groomed yourself. Also, breath mints can also be a good idea.

– Focus more on the Other Person

It’s a, common, mistake to focus too much on yourself. Talking about yourself too much will have a huge negative impact on your whole experience. Instead, focus more on the other person. Take an interest in their interests, ask them questions, and make an effort to get to know them more.

– Be Prepared

If you aren’t the most confident person or if you sometimes struggle to talk to new people, it’s a good idea to write down a list of questions you want to ask your date, and topics you want to talk about, before you get to the event.

When you are considering questions to ask, try to stay away from asking the usual “what do you do for a living” question. Instead, ask your date about their interests, hobbies, goals, dreams and passions. When thinking about topics of conversation, stay away from inappropriate first date topics, like sex, your exes, annoyances, and anything too political.

– Look Happy and Relaxed

Even if you aren’t confident, and you are feeling nervous, hide it. Act confident. Act relaxed. Most importantly, look happy. If you look like a happy, confident and relaxed person, then your date will think you are.

If you are relaxed, it will also put your date at ease, and make the whole experience much more fun and enjoyable. At a speed dating event, remember that everyone is in the same position as you. So, try not to take yourself too seriously, and have some fun.

Finding Events

Since the first event occurred in the late 1990s, speed dating has become increasingly popular. Now, there are events held all over the country. There’s a great scene for speed dating in Auckland, Wellington and in Christchurch.

Also, there are general speed dating events, but there are also events aimed at certain demographics, such as parents and over fifties. Look for events in your area, and give it a try!

For more information, check out our info on dating agencies and the art of blind dating.

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